EDUCATION

 

The first step to making a difference is creating awareness. I want to help provide information at schools and on social media.

The next step is taking responsibility. Even if you only have a suspicion, it is important that you take action and dare to express these thoughts.

 

My message to anyone who has experienced domestic violence: don't let the past disrupt your dreams. I believe in you as much as I believe in myself. If I can do it, you can too!

Let's work together for a future without violence. Speak out! Can I count on you?







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WARNING SIGNS BY OTHERS

  • Any attack or threat, physical, verbal or via social media.
  • Behaving possessively or jealously.
  • Controlling behavior, such as keeping a partner away from friends, telling them what to do or wear.
  • Cyberstalking or snooping on a partner's phone.


WARNING SIGNS WITHIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

  • Treating you exceptionally well at the beginning of the relationship
  • Making you feel sorry for him or her
  • Them never being at fault
  • Trying to control you through constant communication
  • Separating you from your family and friends physically or emotionally or causing chaos before or during family events 
  • Being overly critical
  • Searching your belongings for evidence of cheating
  • Prying into private belongings to learn more of your inner most feelings or past
  • Accessing your E-mail, Facebook and Phone records
  • Booking your calendar so it seems impossible to end the relationship
  • Systematically removing you from your existing friends with probable excuses and keeping you too busy to maintain them.

What is domestic violence?


There are different forms of domestic violence. These are explained per form below:


Partner violence
Any form of violence between two people in a (former) relationship is intimate partner violence. This concerns physical, psychological, sexual abuse, stalking, threats and/or exploitation. In partner violence there is a relationship of dependency. There is a power relationship between the perpetrator and the victim. In addition, children can witness violence between parents, making them also victims of violence. Women can be abused, but so can men.


Elder abuse
Parental abuse is an increasing problem in the Netherlands. One in twenty elderly people is abused. Most often it occurs in families or families. Neglect, threats and extortion are particularly common in elder abuse. It can also happen that an elderly person is abused by a care provider.


Honor-related violence
In some cultures you have to deal with 'honor'. If a son turns out to be gay or a daughter has sex before marriage, honor can be tarnished. They are often abused, threatened or even rejected.

Be Brave and Loud: Speak up!

It's time to say eNOugh! Help is available.
If you need help or know someone who does:

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What defines abuse?

 

Physical abuse: No one should ever be hit, shoved, slapped, punched, kicked or in any way physically assaulted in their relationship.

Other forms of abuse: abuse does not have to be physical. If you feel intimidated by, controlled by or afraid of your partner, you may be experiencing emotional or psychological abuse. Any form of abuse is a valid reason to reach out for help!